I’ve been rather fortunate that the friends and family I’ve come out to about my infertility have been nothing but supportive. Earlier today I had another positive experience. A friend of mine who I used to work with recently gave birth to her first child. Last night she sent out an invitation on Facebook inviting people to her house on Saturday to meet her son. I didn’t want to be rude and decline so I sent her a message explaining our situation. She was very understanding and even explained how she had a miscarriage two years ago. She explained that after the miscarriage she avoided friends with babies and ones who were pregnant. She said that while her situation is different than ours she understood why.
I was very happy with the response I received but sad what infertility has done to me. Her and her husband are good friends and I am very happy for them. I would have loved to see them. But the wounds of infertility are still open and I’m afraid that it would be triggering for us.
Overall I can’t point to one person I came out to where it was a negative experience though coming out to my one boss was negative in that he then turned around saw it as an opportunity to have me travel more. But that is just one exception. Even though outside of two friends everyone family and friends had no experience with infertility they’ve all been supportive of us and very rarely have insensitive comments been made. I’m very thankful for that.